How To Respond To Failure- Ideas For Us All
We have all failed at many things. I am always impressed by the infant who is learning to walk. How many times do they try, first just to get to their feet, then eventually to take a step, and finally, “she walked!”. Do you think it ever occurs to them to give up and just be a sitter? If it does, that thought apparently doesn’t last long for I have yet to see a single able-bodied child not walk.
Lesson: NEVER GIVE UP
Now I must qualify that with the serenity prayer: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”. Don’t let fear stop you from reaching for the almost impossible, but don’t waste your time on the truly impossible. Toddlers want to drive the car, but they accept that being able to reach the peddles with their feet and getting the keys from mom and dad is required first.
Lesson: (SERENITY & WISDOM) Set and strive for worthy but attainable goals
As you set out to achieve a major goal, remember to keep your focus on the goal (have a strong why) and learn and adjust when you have set-backs. Many of my goals have been in the education world. I had to take certain courses, get extra help sometimes, work harder, go above and beyond what everyone else was doing and endure many failures and setbacks. The key to ultimate success was acknowledging failures, learn from it, and make the necessary adjustments to keep moving toward the goal.
What are you trying to achieve?
Lesson: EYE ON THE GOAL
Lesson: KNOW YOUR WHY
Lesson: LEARN and ADJUST when you have setbacks.
I could share several very challenging goals I have overcome in my lifetime, but I’ll limit it to three (and I share these so as to hopefully inspire you, not in any way to say “look at me”):
Becoming a doctor, took 4 years of college, 2 years of graduate school, retaking the MCAT’s after a full-time summer of studying, 4 years of Medical school.
Giving up alcohol completely. I knew I was drinking too much 12 years before I finally was able to give it up completely! Now 12 years without a drop, and I love my life.
Achieving and maintaining a healthy weight. This has been the most difficult and is an ongoing goal. Those who know me know I’ve tried a lot of things, made a lot of adjustments, had some success and some setbacks. I think deep down I know what I need to do; control my eating and be more consistent with exercise.
Lesson: PERSISTENT & CONSISTENT
I thank my parents for nurturing my inner drive and leading by example. Parents, let’s do the same for our children.
Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure… than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.
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