HaltH ungry
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L onely
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Avoid these four traps and you and your loved ones will be much happier.  When we allow two or more of these states to add up, we get irritable, we lash out at others, and we relapse into self destructive behaviors in an attempt to console ourselves. If you have an addiction, that’s relapse time.


HUNGRY: Eat regularly, and make sure that the food is something that is good for you – real food like fruits, vegetables, and nuts (if you are not allergic).  Keep a healthy snack with you at all times so you will not allow yourself to get hungry in the first place.  Drink lots of clean, pure, water, and avoid aspartame (diet soda etc.) like it is a poison.


ANGRY:  Anger and resentments are the number one cause of relapse into self destructive behaviors or addictions. Live by the Serenity Prayer: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” If you can forgive those who you feel have wronged you, then you can be free. The forgiveness is not for them, it’s for you!  Don’t mistake forgiveness as being a door mat and allowing others who have wronged you to walk all over you.  NO! It should be quite the opposite. You are taking charge of your life and saying “I forgive you for the past, but will also never allow you to mistreat me, abuse me, or take advantage of me again”. For many, this process requires professional help, counseling,  or 12-step work with a sponsor. 

LONELY: Isolation for most is trouble.  When we isolate, we then can concern ourselves only with our own problems and needs.  When the focus is inward, all about us, we tend to be less happy.  We are meant to be social and connected with others.  Live in the moment, dream big, reach out to others, surround yourself with positive people, and remove yourself from those who are negative all the time.  Speak well of others with kindness and gratitude.  Happiness comes from within, but when we’ve lived a long time without it, we must take baby steps in the right direction until it is ours again.


TIRED: Guard your sleep above all else.  If you get to bed around the same time and wake up around the same time (allow at least  -8 hours of sleep) you will be amazed at how much you can do or endure for the remaining 16-17 hours of the day!  I would add exercise to your day, even if it’s just a 20 minute walk. You will actually be less tired and more energized after exercising, even if you are a little sore (for those of us who don’t exercise regularly).

Dr. Paul

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